We feel offended when someone call us as ‘Narcissist’!
But, Narcissism is the common trait of all. It’s common for all of us, to expect people to Like/appreciate us. Being resentful when disappointment occurs, the jealousy towards others,
Our childhood tantrums to get what we want. These are associated with Narcissism, and we label someone as ‘Narcissist if they have this as their core behavior! They evaluate their self-worth, by the way others treat them. They are too sensitive to others actions, and they manipulate others to be a puppet for them! It is tiring to live along with a person who has traits of Narcissism! Because they are self-centered and don’t give a damn about others!. But how to handle when our loved ones, either a family member or friends are narcissistic in nature.
What is Narcissism? And who is a Narcissist?
We never cared about the likes and dislikes of our parents while growing up, and we wanted them to fulfill our needs and desires. Some used to be so self-obsessed, they would become hyper; throw tantrums, if their parents don’t provide enough attention. Such kids if they got hurt, either blame the floor or the parents, without realizing that the hurt was because of their own actions. If these characteristics continue till adulthood, then we call it as ‘Narcissism’. These kids had no proper attention or care in their childhood. These kids don’t get appreciation even for small things while growing up. As they have grown up with no appreciations/attention, they would do anything to gain such attention/appreciation. We have our own expectations over our kids like, expecting them to behave well in public. As their parents/friends fail to accept them for their nature, they do everything in order to please everyone/make others like them. They lose their identity as they grow up, wear a false mask to cover and protect their personality. And this trait is called as ‘Narcissism’
Narcissists are more successful than others! As they believe, being a perfectionist creates a good impression. They’ll be around with people who are perfectionists. If the other person’s attitude is as same as them, they’ll be elated! This is how they choose people in their life. But the fact is, no one is perfect in this world. When they see the flaws in us, they question their perfectionism. They even distance themselves from us for being imperfect. They’ll find fault in little things that we do, as they believe that the partner should be perfect. The reason why everyone falls for a narcissist is because they manipulate us to like them. Because they grow up learning to please others and know how to manipulate us. They find it easier as they are doing it for a long time!
We have more important people than our partner in our lives! They play an important role in our lives. A narcissistic person cannot handle if their partner praises someone. Because they think, they are the best in the world, and cannot share the limelight with others. As they don’t like to see their partner praising others, they point out their flaws and justify their opinion. They’ll manipulate and convince us, and make us to cut ties with others!
They lack empathy!
Narcissist, won’t confront their weakness to others, but we’d try to help them in whatever way we can. As it is basic human tendency that most of us have. They’ll choose people who are emotionally vulnerable. We’d do anything and everything to ensure that they are alright, But they will hardly care for us. We would want the narcissist person to look out for us, but they will always prioritize their own feelings. They’ll expect us to give our 100% attention towards them, as their self-worth depends on our appreciation! Like we would expect validation of our parents for everything in our childhood!
People who struck with such attitude exhibit narsicitic behavior. As they grew up with such traits, your constant attention is a much needed one in a relationship. They’ll blame us for not being around, but they could never accept our individual desires, interests, etc. Narcissists consider everything they own as a trophy, including their partner. If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you are considered as a trophy. Nothing is more disappointing for narcissists, like noticing flaws in their partners, For e.g., we consider Oscar award as a prestigious one. But after receiving it, how do we feel, if we came to know, that the award is nothing but crap? They feel the same with their partners, if the partners didn’t meet their expectations. Apart from all this, we wonder who is a Narcissist. They are people who live with a false image, as they grew up pleasing people to get attention or validation. They had no chance to get to know about their true personality. Narcissist is someone who has an inner personality, which is yet to experience life. Though Narcissists project a false image, at the end of the day, they need love and affection.
It is an arduous journey to put up and live along with a Narcissist. Even though we cannot confront them for being narcissistic, as they cannot accept it, they are also humans like us. This book talks about, how to handle narcissists, and how to confront them without offending them.
If we cannot move out from a relationship with an narcissist, the primary thing one has to do is, setting your boundary. You can be in a relationship with a narcissist, if you could understand, that everything they do is their perspective and not your fault. The only solution for narcissistic people is ‘Meditation’. Because it’d help them realize the truth about themselves, and clear the clutter they have in their mind. Self-realization is the best way, and you can suggest them to give meditation a try. When I met a narcissist in my life, I had questions about my self-worth, and wondered, why I was treated in such a way. One of my friends suggested this book, ‘Unmasking the Narcissism’ to me. Most of the Narcissists are remarkably adroit in nature. They’ll be way more successful than others. But their path way to success is wrong. It’d be more effective, if they give up their attitude and reach out for help. Everyone has the basic traits of narcissism in them. But when it reaches the extreme, it becomes narcissistic disorder. You can read this book, if you have a narcissist in your life, or to figure out whether you have narcissistic traits. And it’d help you to have a better understanding about yourself and others. This book ‘Unmasking Narcissism’, helps us to have a good understanding, about narcissistic people without simply painting them black. If you like to read this book, you can buy from the purchase link mentioned here below!
